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Conflict management

without reprehensible actions there will be less room for reprehension
without reprehensible actions
there will be less room for reprehension

If you don’t want to read too much, the meme I made for this article summarizes preety well what the article says.

I have a method quite effective to avoid conflicts with your employer, partner, friends, etc:

  • 90% by avoiding doing things that are reprensible, or a reprensible attitude.
  • 10% by accepting reprensible things, or reprensible attitudes.

This doesn’t avoid all conflicts, but it leaves less room for reprisements.
In the 1st. item attacking causes, and in the 2nd. one, managing the consequences.

Some clarifications:

  1. Of course, anyone can judge on his/her way. Also, there will be a unanimous(?) agreement that on some acts are more than reprisable. They are unacceptable.
  2. Each person will establish his/her percentages according to the type of relationship we’re talking about: are we talking about your mate? your job, your friends? etc…
  3. And I never said these percentages will remain still. They may probably go back and forward, depending how old, the time of your life, your experiences. Today it can be 90/10, tomorrow 70/30, even 50/50, etc…

My only warning would be: don’t wait to the point where we are 90% accepting (or expecting acceptation).
Don’t play with your patience. Don’t play with the patience of others.

Xouscast 3 – Receiving negative feedback


So here you have: Feedback!

For the way that I see it, it is the start of a path of improvement.

You may receive positive or negative feedback. And the obvious is that everyone prefers to receive or give positive feedback. I’d like to expose some concepts about receiving negative feedback.

Using the half-empty, half-full glass of water analogy, I will make you think about it. And of couse: your feedback is welcome! :)

Part 1 of 2

Part 2 of 2



Is it a good idea to be the best in your field?

first-place In order to make a quick response. It is ALWAYS GOOD to aim to be the best in your field. Period. However, the longer answer, should be: it depends. Seth Godin said that you can’t be the “next Seth Godin” because he is still around! That made me think of options and alternatives. You can’t be Roger Federer in tennis, because he is still there. Hey! but you can be even ‘better’ than him (check at the ranking right now). This can lead to discussion, because, besides ranking, there is a LOT, a LOT of people that consider Roger as the best tennis player of all times, no matter his current ranking position (and I have to say, that I completely agree). You can’t be Lionel Messi, because he is still there. Anyway Cristiano Ronaldo won the latest Golden ball prize. What’s my point? Again, it’s great to aim to be the best in your field. But, you may be choosing the wrong field, or the right field, but with the wrong difficulty. Does it make sense to be the Google of Search Engines? Yes sure, but the dificulty is VERY HARD. You can aim for that particular long tail that Google doesn’t do quite well, if there is such a chance. But, always, difficulty is (almost) IMPOSSIBLE. – Aim for the best – Check who is already there. – Check difficulty – avoid being a copycat. That’s all, thanks!