If we have an itch, we can think it’s not a big deal.
Or we can, in a ridiculous way, think in all the other places where we don’t have any itch. And smile for seeing the positive side of things.
I’m not against a positive vision. In fact, I think my vision is mostly positive.
However, once a day, once a week, once a month, we need to evaluate what’s on the half-empty part of the glass. Or we just become a conformist.
If we have an itch, we have to scratch it. Or at least we have to try! If we don’t reach the place, let’s use a pencil, something, or we can ask somebody help. On the opposite, there are dozens of ways to just endure it.
If you don’t want to read too much, the meme I made for this article summarizes preety well what the article says.
I have a method quite effective to avoid conflicts with your employer, partner, friends, etc:
90% by avoiding doing things that are reprensible, or a reprensible attitude.
10% by accepting reprensible things, or reprensible attitudes.
This doesn’t avoid all conflicts, but it leaves less room for reprisements.
In the 1st. item attacking causes, and in the 2nd. one, managing the consequences.
Of course, anyone can judge on his/her way. Also, there will be a unanimous(?) agreement that on some acts are more than reprisable. They are unacceptable.
Each person will establish his/her percentages according to the type of relationship we’re talking about: are we talking about your mate? your job, your friends? etc…
And I never said these percentages will remain still. They may probably go back and forward, depending how old, the time of your life, your experiences. Today it can be 90/10, tomorrow 70/30, even 50/50, etc…
My only warning would be: don’t wait to the point where we are 90% accepting (or expecting acceptation).
Don’t play with your patience. Don’t play with the patience of others.
This is one of the most important things I’m going to write. Why? Because it describes my not so basic instincts and priorities. I’d really LOVE to know what you think. And of course, feel free to disagree. Here we go. The ten SMALL things that can make HUGE positive impact in your life are: Continue reading →
I know a lot of you don’t like to read too much. So, I have for you a quite smaller version of this article. So little that it fits in a tweet. Actually, I may possibly tweet this: You can BREAK Murphy’s Laws, but please…do not ignore them! (José Negreira dixit ) Ok, that’s the end of the short version! Extended version I feel motivation to write about negative anticipation, not just because I know a lot of close people that deals with it, but it also happens TO MYSELF. Continue reading →
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