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Conflict management

without reprehensible actions there will be less room for reprehension
without reprehensible actions
there will be less room for reprehension

If you don’t want to read too much, the meme I made for this article summarizes preety well what the article says.

I have a method quite effective to avoid conflicts with your employer, partner, friends, etc:

  • 90% by avoiding doing things that are reprensible, or a reprensible attitude.
  • 10% by accepting reprensible things, or reprensible attitudes.

This doesn’t avoid all conflicts, but it leaves less room for reprisements.
In the 1st. item attacking causes, and in the 2nd. one, managing the consequences.

Some clarifications:

  1. Of course, anyone can judge on his/her way. Also, there will be a unanimous(?) agreement that on some acts are more than reprisable. They are unacceptable.
  2. Each person will establish his/her percentages according to the type of relationship we’re talking about: are we talking about your mate? your job, your friends? etc…
  3. And I never said these percentages will remain still. They may probably go back and forward, depending how old, the time of your life, your experiences. Today it can be 90/10, tomorrow 70/30, even 50/50, etc…

My only warning would be: don’t wait to the point where we are 90% accepting (or expecting acceptation).
Don’t play with your patience. Don’t play with the patience of others.

Problems of Argentina

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One of my Facebook contact published the following request (complete the sentence):

The problem is not Macri, it’s not Cristina. The problem of Argentina is that ___.

Also clarifying that those who know how to correctly complete the sentence, will also know that there is no short-term solution. Mi answer was:

The problem is not Macri, it’s not Cristina. The problem of Argentina is that “is full of argentinians”.

He said that this phrase was said several times, and from people that doesn’t live inside a bubble.

My reasons:

It’s quite sad – we usually take advantage (sometimes this is *good*, but the problem is when we bypass rules and/or authority). Just stand in a street intersection, just 2 minutes.

When the semaphore goes from green to yellow, it means: “Hurry up”, and for motorcycles, semaphore’s red color is simply optional.

People walking, cross the street on every place. I’ve seen and did it several times. It’s not a particular case, it’s something GENERAL/GLOBAL. All really sad.

I’m a participant, not just pointing with my finger. A direct and indiret participant.

Direct: when I cross wherever I want. Crossing the exclusive-for-bus path on the middle of the street. Maybe I’ll learn and reflect this when I got hit by a motorcycle (which uses the exclusive-for-bus path as a highway).

Indirect: when I see someone else doing the same, I start losing the chance to get surprised, and get angry. We allow this.

Second problem: “we fix it with a wire”. I think I’ve read this from Marcos Aguinis. But this phrase is a classic. This is something good by itself. It can be a reason for admiration, inside and outside the country. To find an alternative and valid solution, without the expected resources. Where is the problem? When we think that the wire works for everything. And in our toolbox, we have ONLY wires. Too bad!

There must be dozens of issues, but I think that if we can get rid of those 2, we can move on for the better :)

Xouscast 3 – Receiving negative feedback

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So here you have: Feedback!

For the way that I see it, it is the start of a path of improvement.

You may receive positive or negative feedback. And the obvious is that everyone prefers to receive or give positive feedback. I’d like to expose some concepts about receiving negative feedback.

Using the half-empty, half-full glass of water analogy, I will make you think about it. And of couse: your feedback is welcome! :)

Part 1 of 2

Part 2 of 2